Hi, I wanted to take the time to respond to a comment posted to my post about The Male Privilege Checklist. Below you will find the comment that was posted.
Comment:
Miss B,
This is a great analysis of the 'privilege' Deutsch metiones, men enjoy as they are praised for doing even the minimal amount of child rearing. Your post covers not only the effects this has on men and their relationship with their children, but also on the children's perception of fathers. We can take this even further and think about what the new generation of men will think of their role as fathers if their fathers set a bad example? Also, think about how women fit into this picture? Do you think women are part of the problem and claim to be the more capable care takers?
My Response:
For future generations that have gone through the experience of having a "bad example" for a father I think it will create a a variety of different situations. I think for some it will provide an inspiration to be better fathers to there children then there fathers were to them which would be an amazing step in the right direction. For some men they could want to not want to be like there fathers but because this "bad example" is somewhat acceptable and excused it provides room for them to give themselves excuse if they find themselves recreating there fathers in a new generation. Sad to say but unfortunately there will be some who will completely recreate those "bad examples" without any thought for trying to make a change for the better.
I think women play certain roles in the creation of this "bad example" of fathers that exist today. Some women have been tradiional thought and influenced that man can provide just primary care for their children and thats all that is required. Some I feel allow its existence for personal gain whether it be they want the main responsibility of caring for the children or enjoy the financial benefits of there male counterparts "primary care giving" nature. Something I will I have noticed is that today women are more willing to challenge there male counterparts to doing more and being more for there families. So maybe even woman to are taking a step in the right direction to rid society of its acceptance of "primary care giving fathers".
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