Worst Date:
I was once asked by a friend of mine if I would go with her to a play she had to attend for a class she was taken. I told her yes I would come and I didn't think much of it, thinking it was just me doing a friendly gesture. Unfortunately she took my reply as a sign I was interested in her and considered this a "first date". I arrived to her school and we went to the play, the play was nice and we both seemed to enjoy ourselves. Afterwards we went down the street to a local pizza place and had a few slices, and we each paid for our own food. Then after that we got ont he train to head home, which took forever due to delays every other stop. While on the train we made conversation and I had a very good time and it seemed as though she did too. As we arrived to our stop we hugged and said bye and went our seperate ways. The next day I recieved a phone call from a mutal friend me and the girl shared and she asked me how I was such a horrible date. I was shocked and asked her what she was talking about, and she said the date you went on with the girl. I explained that I didnt take her out on a date that I simply went with her to a play and we ate after. She explained to me she considered it our first date and how she expected me to pay for the meal, to hold her hand as we walked around the campus, and kiss her goodnight. For a while me and her didnt speak, and I didnt care because I didnt give any reason for her to consider us going somewhere a first date. We eventually meet up again and sat down and talked about it and even though we are not dating we go out with each other every now and then and are clear about what we are doing. So for me the worst date I ever had was not knowing I was on a date to began with.
I agree witht he way you reacted towards your "date". You treated the girl as a friend because thats all you thought she expected.By talking to the girl again and explaining the situation, I think you proved to be the "gentalmen" Susan Bordo refered to in "Gentalman or Beast". Since you had no idea you were on the date you had no chance to be "the cheap guy" on your date.
ReplyDeleteThanks Tiffany, I totally agree. Because if it was a "date" I would have treated the situation totally different.
ReplyDeletewell I agree that it wasn't youyur fault to begin with, because you had no interested in her as a girlfriend. you seem to only go with her to the play and eat after as a sign of friend hanging out. What she did is a sign that she was just arrogant. You seem to be a good person as the reading "Who Cheap?", but you don't show any sign to fit that article. your reaction is related to "Gentlemn or Beast, The Double Bind of Masculinity," because you show a postive gesture of friendship at firest and then you show a negative gesture to avoid a betrayed friend. But, at the bright side you too did make up on a total misunderstanding.
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